Lovely podcast and nice to hear your dad is a bit happier/nicer. It sounds like you had a big day there with lots going on. Now, sorry to be pedantic but that wasn't the World Cup. It was the FIFA Club World Cup. There's a world of difference. 😁 My husband was disappointed that Paris St German didn't win. No, he's not French he just doesn't like Chelsea. As for me, I paid no attention and read a book instead. Anyway keep doing what you do because you do it very well.
I’m so glad you had a positive experience with your dad & he seems to be accepting his new situation. Everyone just needs time to adjust & accept new circumstances. You absolutely did the right thing for him and I’m hopeful that things will continue to improve for you both. Thanks for sharing your journey!
Hang in there my friend, your father will appreciate you when he has a lucid moment. Trust me, I've been there. Love and support here, and will reStack ASAP 🙏
I was the caretaker. A year later my family is divided among those who witnessed and participated in caretaking and those who listened to my husband when he was mad, usually expressing his anger at the situation by blaming me for some infraction. It was and is exhausting. I did the best that I could and it sounds like you and your mom are responding to your dad in very real and loving ways.
I am never surprised when people act out if there are major changes in their life. The anger they feel towards how their life is changing, can often be directed towards the people in their life. Basically, the loved ones in a person’s life become the focus of someone’s anger. It’s a sad thing to see, but anger and frustration over having their life diminished by illness, needs an outlet. Sadly, that outlet is often those who care for them the most.
This is raw and real in the best way—the kind of post that doesn’t pretend caregiving is some noble Instagram reel but tells the truth of it: the bruises, the beauty, the parts you rehearse in your head before walking through the door.
Thank you for not sanitizing it. For showing us that love sometimes looks like showing up again after being told you’re hated. That’s not weakness. That’s spiritual weightlifting.
You didn't just visit your father. You visited the aching edge of your own heart, and came back with a story worth hearing.
It takes people a while before they can get over the changes to their lives and become more personable. Glad your mom’s eyes are responding to the shots!
It's so tough for you, but remember how hard it is on him. He sounds angry about his whole situation and probably can't deal with it. If he blames God, tell him you will leave the room for awhile so he can have a personal conversation with the deity he claimed to represent and that's who he should be yelling at. Then walk out - quickly!!😂
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. Emotions affect us in different ways, and some people don’t know how to handle them. I don’t know your whole story, but I hope it ends well.
Lovely podcast and nice to hear your dad is a bit happier/nicer. It sounds like you had a big day there with lots going on. Now, sorry to be pedantic but that wasn't the World Cup. It was the FIFA Club World Cup. There's a world of difference. 😁 My husband was disappointed that Paris St German didn't win. No, he's not French he just doesn't like Chelsea. As for me, I paid no attention and read a book instead. Anyway keep doing what you do because you do it very well.
I’m so glad you had a positive experience with your dad & he seems to be accepting his new situation. Everyone just needs time to adjust & accept new circumstances. You absolutely did the right thing for him and I’m hopeful that things will continue to improve for you both. Thanks for sharing your journey!
Hang in there my friend, your father will appreciate you when he has a lucid moment. Trust me, I've been there. Love and support here, and will reStack ASAP 🙏
I was the caretaker. A year later my family is divided among those who witnessed and participated in caretaking and those who listened to my husband when he was mad, usually expressing his anger at the situation by blaming me for some infraction. It was and is exhausting. I did the best that I could and it sounds like you and your mom are responding to your dad in very real and loving ways.
I am never surprised when people act out if there are major changes in their life. The anger they feel towards how their life is changing, can often be directed towards the people in their life. Basically, the loved ones in a person’s life become the focus of someone’s anger. It’s a sad thing to see, but anger and frustration over having their life diminished by illness, needs an outlet. Sadly, that outlet is often those who care for them the most.
Good luck with that. Sounds unpleasant.
PS... In today's America, I'd be careful about being too public with personal stuff.
Just sayin'.
Eric
This is raw and real in the best way—the kind of post that doesn’t pretend caregiving is some noble Instagram reel but tells the truth of it: the bruises, the beauty, the parts you rehearse in your head before walking through the door.
Thank you for not sanitizing it. For showing us that love sometimes looks like showing up again after being told you’re hated. That’s not weakness. That’s spiritual weightlifting.
You didn't just visit your father. You visited the aching edge of your own heart, and came back with a story worth hearing.
I’ll be listening.
Well said
It takes people a while before they can get over the changes to their lives and become more personable. Glad your mom’s eyes are responding to the shots!
It's so tough for you, but remember how hard it is on him. He sounds angry about his whole situation and probably can't deal with it. If he blames God, tell him you will leave the room for awhile so he can have a personal conversation with the deity he claimed to represent and that's who he should be yelling at. Then walk out - quickly!!😂
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. Emotions affect us in different ways, and some people don’t know how to handle them. I don’t know your whole story, but I hope it ends well.